The Sex Life of Women Improves with Age

Better Sex Over The Hill
(Excerpts from article by MEGAN MCCHESNEY from the Toronto)

A paper recently published in The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality cites research showing younger single women "were less likely than older single women to report orgasm during sexual activity."

A survey by the U.K.-based Health Plus magazine found 77 per cent of female respondents over 40 enjoy sex more in their 40s than in their 20s. In total, 69 per cent said they felt more sexually adventurous and 45 per cent said they had a greater sexual appetite.

Melanie, 23, and her girlfriends like having a good time. They like going to bars and clubs, meeting guys, and — if the mood strikes — sleeping with said guys. It's precisely the care-free and adventurous sex life we're led to believe they have.

But when it comes down to it, are they enjoying sex? "A lot of girls don't," says Melanie. "I think a lot of girls do what the guys want. They're self-conscious. They don't always enjoy it, but they do it anyway."

Melanie and her friends have the impression that sex is a chore not a pleasure for middle-aged women.

"I listen to older women talk about sex, and I think, especially if they're married, it becomes boring. It's not something they enjoy, but they do it for their husbands."

Maggie just turned 25, and has already noticed things starting to improve. "It's so much more of a given that a guy in his early 20s will be more in tune with his body (not hers)," she says. "At the time, you think the sex is fun. It doesn't suck, but it's not fantastic. You hear older women talk about orgasms and how liberating they are and wonder why you don't feel that way."

Researchers dating back to Kinsey confirm that a woman's sex life shows no decline at middle age. Not having young children in the house, or a diminished fear of pregnancy, could lead to a more satisfying sex life.

"Older women have developed their sensitivity and have far more knowledge and awareness," says Annie Sprinkles. "They're much more advanced and powerful sexually. Perhaps society puts down the vintage Venus because she is so much more sexually powerful: a beautiful, savvy queen."

The idea that sex is largely for the young, the firm and the beautiful is one that is bought and sold regularly in our youth-obsessed culture.

Faces might wrinkle and body parts might sag, but it's nice to know that, especially for women, a sex life is one thing that really does get better with age.